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Red Flag Database

The complete library of 47 toxic phrases decoded.

"I'm not looking for anything serious right now."

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"Let's just go with the flow."

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"I'm just really busy with work right now."

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"My ex was crazy."

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"I'm bad at texting."

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"I don't want to ruin our friendship."

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"You deserve better than me."

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"I've never felt this connection with anyone before."

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"I'm not ready for a relationship right now, but I really like you."

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"You are just so intimidating."

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"I was just joking, you're too sensitive."

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"I hate drama."

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"Let's just see where the night takes us."

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"Don't worry about her, she's just a friend."

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"I'm sorry you feel that way."

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"I'm not like other guys."

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"We have such a crazy connection, let's skip the small talk."

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"I'm terrible at making plans, I'm more spontaneous."

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"I've never met anyone like you before."

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"Sorry, my phone died."

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"I have trust issues because of my ex."

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"I want to be exclusive, but not put a label on it."

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"I really need to focus on myself right now."

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"Do you want to come over and watch a movie?"

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"I'm kind of seeing someone, but it's complicated."

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"Why are you acting so crazy?"

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"Good morning beautiful (mass text)"

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"Hey stranger."

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"Omg I'm so sorry, I drafted a reply and thought I sent it!"

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"Sorry I've been quiet, I deleted the app for a mental health detox."

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"Work has just been absolutely insane this week."

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"I promise I'm not ignoring you!"

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"I'm just in a weird headspace right now."

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"I miss your face."

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"I lost my phone / got a new number."

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"I pulled back because I didn't want to lead you on."

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"Sorry, had a family emergency."

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"I got scared because I like you too much."

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"I literally forgot to hit send."

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"My social battery is just drained."

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"Sorry I fell asleep."

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"I have my notifications turned off."

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"Just saw this!"

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"Can we raincheck? (and never reschedules)"

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"U up?"

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"Thinking of you."

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"*Left on Read*"

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